Out of sync
For couples whose days don’t line up.
Intimate shows each of you how the other is doing today, which makes it easier for two busy people to plan time together.
Tuesday evening
Good evening, Sam
✨ You’re in sync today
You and Robin feel much the same today.
You both picked 🤲 Touch and 🕯️ Stillness. Mood, energy, capacity and in the mood are each within one step.
You might recognise this.
One of you reaches over and the other is already asleep.
You’re both tired, and you’ve both said “I’m fine” today.
There’s a text you wrote and didn’t send.
You can’t remember exactly when you were last properly close.
It can feel harder to ask after a long gap.
How Intimate helps.
You see how they are.
Mood, energy, capacity and whether they’re open to intimacy are on Home as soon as they check in.
You ask once.
You write up to three words, and only one need is open at a time.
“Not today” is one of the answers.
Your person can answer Not today and add a note.
You notice the good days.
Days in sync are counted and highlighted in Monday’s recap.
An example day.
At 8:15am Robin sets Capacity to Low, and Sam picks Touch and Stillness under Today I’d love.
At lunch Sam opens Home and sees that Robin is tired and has low capacity. That evening Sam doesn’t ask for anything, and they sit together on the couch.
Try it for a week.
Check in each morning for a week, then look at the recap on Monday.