Needs
Ask for what you’d love in up to three words.
Your person answers with one tap: Yes, Later or Not today.
Robin asked for
Slow massage
Thursday · evening
Tap an answer.
Afterwards: how much did it mean?
Steps
How a need works, in four steps.
Ask.
Write up to three words: “Slow massage”. Pick a day and a time. Add a line if you like.
Answer.
Your person taps Yes, Later or Not today, with an optional note.
Do.
A yes goes into a “You said yes to” list with its day and time.
Hearts.
Afterwards, the person who asked scores how much it meant, or taps “It didn’t happen”.
Robin asked for
Slow massage
Thursday · evening
Tap an answer.
Afterwards: how much did it mean?
Answers
Three ways to answer.
“Yes.” It goes on their list with a day and time.
“Later.” The need stays open.
“Not today.” You don’t have to give a reason.
Add up to 140 characters if you want to say more: “Not tonight, but yes on Friday.”
The asker sees your answer, plus your note if you wrote one.
How much did it mean?
Hearts
Rate how much it meant.
When a need is met, the person who asked taps a heart: A little, Nice, Really nice, A lot, Meant the world.
It’s a record of what mattered to you.
After a few weeks, Reports show which needs got the most hearts.
Rules
Three rules.
One at a time.
The next ask opens once the last one has been answered and rated.
Up to three words.
Needs are short and in your own words. The box suggests your past wording, so the same need is spelled the same way and Reports can count it.
You choose the day and time.
Today or the next two days, morning to night, or anytime.
If you ask by mistake, you can clear the need and it’s removed for both of you.
Needs can be tender, playful or sexual.
You choose how direct to be, for example “Long kissing”, “Slow massage”, “Shower together”, “Cuddles”, or something only the two of you would understand. Intimate is an adult app. The suggestions built into the box are gentle ones, such as “Back rub” or “Date night”. If you or your person type something more direct, the box remembers it from your history and suggests it back to you.
Your person only sees what you send.
Notifications
Notifications on the lock screen.
When your person asks for something you get a notification. By default it doesn’t say what the need is.
Default
Intimate: “Sam shared a need 💫”
If you turn on details
Intimate: “Sam would love: Slow massage”
Quiet hours are on by default, so nothing arrives between 10pm and 7am your time. Turn on notifications per device, in Profile.
Tuesday 14 October
9:41
Intimate nowRobin shared a need 💫Intimate with details onRobin would love: Slow massage